For many of us feeling confident is a daily struggle. It can seem so much easier to put ourselves down than to build ourselves up. If you find yourself telling yourself, that you aren’t doing things right, that you are messing up as a mom, worker or wife, this article is for you. These are 5 self care tips to help to shift your mindset and leave you feeling great and confident about the wonderful woman that you are.
Rant About the Good Things
It’s very easy to complain. I personally love a good rant session. I can rant with the best of them. Put me in a room and I can complain, complain, complain. Sometimes it feels funny but mostly it’s just negative. What I found is that if I put that same level of energy into ranting about the great things in my life I ultimately feel a lot better. You can do the same. Take a moment to think about everything wonderful in your life: your kids, maybe even your boss that you have a job, your spouse, the house that you live in, the car that you have, your friends, all the things that you’ve achieved and experiences that you’ve been blessed to have, your health. Think about the wonderful things going on in your life and rant about them the same way that you complain. This will help to boost your confidence by reminding you that you actually do have a lot of amazing things going on in life.
Exercise 15 Minutes A Day
Our bodies and our minds are deeply connected. When we forget to use our bodies we often times start to feel grumpy and gross. Our confidence falls and life just doesn’t seem to hold that same shine. If you can take the time to exercise for 15 minutes a day you will feel better. You will feel more confident. It doesn’t have to be an intense exercise it just means moving your body and reminding yourself how wonderful your body is. Taking the time to do a little something for you is always a confidence booster. A few examples of exercise that count for this are walking, yoga, dancing, taking a Zumba or spin class or trying the latest online workout video.
Limit Social Media
Social media can seem like a great way to relax your mind after a long day but a lot of times it’s just stealing your joy. Limit the amount of time you spend peering into others lives and instead focus on what’s wonderful in your life. The less time you spend on social media, the less time you spend looking at the highlights of other people’s lives which can sometimes bring us down as we hate click our friends vacation and happy hour photos.
Comparison can easily steal joy. This goes hand-in-hand with the idea of limiting social media. Don’t compare your life to anyone else’s. You don’t know what they have been through. But I can guess that your journey is not the same as theirs. Your struggles and support are not the same as their struggles and support. Comparing it’s not a great way to boost your confidence. If you find there are certain people that you often compare yourself to that leave you feeling unconfident don’t go around those folks. Stay away from them on social media and don’t hang out with them. As much as you can do to avoid that person just do it. It’s not doing you any favors being around them if it just makes you feel bad. If you’re comparing yourself to someone that you don’t even know just stop. Right now. You have no idea what it took for them to get to where they are and you have no idea what kind of support they have had a long on the way. I can bet they’re not the same as yours. Don’t compare. When you find yourself comparing stop and take a moment to rant about the good things in your life.
Acknowledge and Own Your Feelings
Pushing our feelings down inside also suppresses confidence. You have a lot of feelings because you are human. It’s healthy to have feelings, it’s not healthy to ignore them. When you ignore your feelings you can put a veil over all of your emotions blocking out what you need to be confident. Acknowledge your emotions and own them. Sit with them, understand why you feel the way you feel and then move through it. This will actually help to increase your confidence level.
It’s time to take action. Which of these confidence boosters resonated with you? Try it out today. You can also print out the sheet below to help you remember to try these things when you have low confidence. You are an amazing person. I know that because you’re reading this article trying to get better. So dust yourself off, rant about some good things, move your body acknowledge your feelings and spend some time with those who will be your cheerleader.
Being connected to yourself and others can also help to boost confidence get self-care tips on how to stay connected here.
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