As busy moms with so much going on in our personal and professional lives, resistance is inevitable. It’s something that we all face, and it can be really frustrating in hindsight. Therefore, I encourage you to start dealing with resistance as soon as you are faced with it. Here are four tips on how to deal with resistance.
Accept It’s Inevitable
Accept that resistance is real. It’s a part of moving through life. We all face resistance. It doesn’t matter if you are the CEO of a fortune 500 or if you’re flipping burgers at McDonald’s. Everybody faces resistance. Sure, on different levels, but at the end of the day, we’re all dealing with some level of resistance in our lives.
Once you accept that resistance is inevitable, learn not to take it personally. When you don’t take it personally, it’s a lot less frustrating and a lot easier to move through. Every day you’re going to face some level of resistance. Don’t take it personally. It’s just how life is. Therefore, you need to have a plan.
Acknowledge When You Feel It
Once you accept it, then you can start to acknowledge when you feel it. When you notice that resistance is creeping up to your door, acknowledge it immediately. Look it straight in the face and greet this resistance, recognize it, and name it – “This is something – some feeling or some action or some obstacle stopping me from achieving my goal.” That is called resistance. Acknowledge it. Once you acknowledge it, think about how it makes you feel.
Think About How It Feels and What It Is Doing
Think about why you have this resistance and what that resistance is doing to you. You can acknowledge it and check-in with yourself and say, “I am not feeling great right now. Something is stopping me from doing what I want to do.” Then think about how that resistance is affecting you. A great example of resistance we have all experienced is getting out of bed when the alarm goes off. When the alarm sounds, you’re cozy and comfortable in bed, and sometimes you press snooze. At this moment, we must think to ourselves, “By sleeping in, I’m making my morning a little bit more chaotic. Right now, it feels nice because I’m so warm and comfortable. But if I think about how I’m going to feel in 20-30 minutes from now, it’s probably better to just get up right now.” Start to think about what the resistance is doing to you. Once you understand what the resistance is doing to you, the next thing to do is to knock it out.
Knock It Out
KO the resistance that is standing in your way. It is fun for me to think of resistance in this light because now it is something to be destroyed. Once you acknowledge how the resistance is making you feel, and you think about what it’s doing to you, just knock it out. Sometimes it helps to come up with a plan ahead of time.
If you know there are certain moments of resistance that you face every day, such as getting out of bed in the morning, then make a plan. A plan to knock it out might include setting your alarm clock away from your bed, or it might involve keeping a photo or an image of your dream life next to your bed stand. You can look at that image or photo when you’re half asleep, and it will help to energize you to get out of bed.
I encourage you to start overcoming resistance today by thinking of one moment of resistance that you experience weekly. Once you have identified a moment of resistance, then make your plan to knock it out when it stands in your way. Remember, with small daily actions you can begin living your best days now.
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