Hey mama,
Do you ever find yourself stuck in the “I can’t delegate this” trap? Maybe you’ve thought, “No one can do this as well as me,” or “If I don’t do it, it won’t get done right.” If you’ve been there (and let’s be real, we’ve all been there), I’m here to tell you: you don’t have to keep carrying the load alone.
The “No One Can Do It Like Me” Mentality
This is a common story I hear from women who are juggling it all—whether it’s work, kids, or life’s daily demands. You’ve got things to do, but you’re not sure who you can trust to handle them. You say, “No one can do it like me,” and so you keep it all on your plate.
Here’s the thing: while it’s true that no one might exactly replicate your process, that doesn’t mean things can’t still get done. So let’s unpack why this mindset may be holding you back.
The Real Reason Delegating Feels Hard: No Clear Vision of Success
What I’ve found when I talk to women struggling with delegation is that they often haven’t clearly defined what success looks like for the task they’re holding onto. They don’t have Key Performance Indicators (KPIs) set up to measure progress or results. When you’re unable to articulate what you want and how it should look, of course, it’s hard to hand that over to someone else!
Think about it. If someone doesn’t know how you do it or what you expect, they’re going to fall short. You might think they’re doing it “wrong,” but in reality, they just don’t have the full picture.
Set the Vision, Set the Stage
Here’s the challenge: the next time you find yourself thinking, “No one can do it like me,” I want you to take a moment and ask yourself—Can I clearly define how I do this and what success looks like?
If you can’t define it, how will someone else? This step is crucial. Once you’ve broken down the process and the desired outcome, you’ll be able to find someone who can step in and take the reins with confidence.
One of the reason that I see people fail at delegation is that they say, “Well, no one can do it like me.”
How to Get Started
- Define Success: What does success look like for this task? What’s the outcome you want to see, and how will you measure it? Be specific!
- Break It Down: Detail your process. If you can outline the steps, it’ll be much easier for someone to follow them.
- Communicate Clearly: Share your expectations. Give them the tools and context they need to succeed.
- Trust the Process: You might not get exactly what you envisioned, but you’ll get results—results that free you up for the next big thing.
You Got This, Mama
Remember, mama—delegation doesn’t mean giving up your power. It means setting yourself and your team up for success. When you define success clearly, you empower others to meet that standard, even if they’re not doing it your way.
So go ahead, let go of that “I can do it better” mentality, and start building a team that can do it with you. You’ve got this!
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